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Change Your Life by Changing Your Perspective
Majority of people loves to complain about many areas of their life, like their job, home, school, government, community, etc., yet they are unwillingly to act and do something to change it. They want the circumstance to change on its own without the need for them to change. As a result, years have passed by and they still complain on the same things.
When I hear and meet people who endlessly complain about the undesirable and negative conditions that life brings them, I can’t help but to remember what Albert Einstein have said;
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different result.”
I learned about this phrase when I was still employed. Back then, I was struggling financially, emotionally and physically because of too much work responsibility, low salary pay and lack of fulfillment and enjoyment in my life. What I did is what most people do; I complained and condemned my stressful and difficult situations. I blamed it to my boss and the company for taking advantage and passing too much burden to us, their staff and employees. My grievances were also felt by my co-workers and friends that’s why whenever we take our break, all we talk about is how stressful, difficult and unsatisfying our work is. Months have passed by and the incidents didn’t change, in fact, it gotten worse as the days went by.
After a couple of months of complaining and condemning my job, I got fed up by the unchanging, unprogressive and difficult work environment. I finally decided to look for a solution to my moans because I realized nothing will change in my state if I don’t do anything and just keep on complaining.
What I did next was to look for better opportunities outside that company. At the same time, I also started reading self-help books to help me better cope with the change I wanted to create in my career and life. By doing so, I learned a lot of valuable lessons in the process. And one of the many lessons is discovering how powerful our thoughts are. How a simple change in perspective can alter one’s life.
Now, three years after I decided to change and proactively take charge of my life, I never been so enthusiastic, progressive and fulfilled. Whenever I get in touch with my old co-workers, I observed two different behaviors. Those who also chose to create change have found their own success and happiness, while those who chose to stay still kept on complaining with the same misery and hardship. Their choice of not acting upon their circumstance has not changed their problem and life.
It wasn’t surprising to see how people who embrace and accept change ends up more successful and happy compared to those that don’t. Because as Mary Engelbreit has said:
“If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.”
The lesson I want to share in this article is that if you want to create change in your life, be first willing to change yourself and your perspective.
Here are some steps on how you can do so:
Develop a proactive attitude instead of reactive attitude
Be willing to get out of your comfort zone and try different things
If you can’t change it, change how you perceive it
Learn to accept and be adaptable to change
If you can’t stick with it for the long haul, quit
The benefit is that once you learn to accept and create change, that’s when you are able to open better opportunity in your life. Unlike when you are complaining and condemning, it brings you nothing but negative feeling and unwanted circumstance.
In any negative, stressful and difficult situation, remember this phrase from Paulo Coelho:
“Every day, we are given the chance to change the things we don’t like. Use it!”
by: Resty Pocong Ladao
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Living a Dead Life: How to Balance Your Work and Life?
Are you living a dead life? Living a dead life is what we call a person who is still alive yet they’re dead (lifeless) wasting all their time solely by working too hard aiming for career success and not enjoying all the other areas of life. They live life without balance in the four aspects of life, such as physical, mental, emotional/social, and spiritual. All they do with their time is either working or studying in order to get ahead in their career.
Living a dead life means a life without balance. It is evidenced by the following:
Broken relationships due to unpleasant attitude, lack of time and priority.
Following unhealthy habit or lifestyle by neglecting one’s health and well-being which causes stress, anxiety and illnesses.
Unable to achieve peace of mind due to lack of reflection and meditation.
Don’t fear that you will die, fear that you have not lived your life…….
by: Resty P. Ladao
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Finding Happiness is Having the Courage to Let Go of Comfort
The point I want to emphasize here is to have the courage to break away from the things that makes you unhappy and unfulfilled. Be brave to get out of your comfort zone to find your own happiness, success and purpose.
Oftentimes, the reason of our unhappiness and lack of fulfillment comes from knowing what we want, yet we don’t do something about it. It may be ‘cause of our fear of change, discomfort and failure. So instead, we just force ourselves to think that what we have, or where we are, is already the best choice. We let our doubt, fear or ego to defeat us that’s why we chose not to change and just continue complaining with our life.
The huge benefit of having the courage to change your life and find happiness is countless. Some of the benefit is eliminating the constant “what ifs”. You’ll be able to discover and achieve more than the things you can do if you chose to stay. You can be free to explore and find where your real happiness is rather than locking yourself to something that makes you stressed, unmotivated and unhappy.
For a final note, keep this phrase in mind whenever you feel unhappy yet unwilling to let go of your comfort zone:
” We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are.”
by” Resty P. Ladao
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Work is a Means to an End, It’s Not The End
Many of us devote most of our time working because it is necessary to earn and sustain our daily needs (and wants). For that reason, working is important. However, don’t let work consume all of your life. Learn to control it, and not let it control you.
Make a conscious choice to live in all other areas and aspects of your life, such as physical, emotional/social, and spiritual. Set a schedule that tries to live a balanced lifestyle. By doing so, you eliminate the consequences of a hurried lifestyle like stress, fatigue, anxiety, depression, unhappiness and lack of fulfillment.
You don’t need to work yourself to death in order to succeed in life. Success does not come from abusing yourself by working too hard. Success comes from having a definite goal, proper management of time and priority, and working smart not hard. Learn to develop those in order to manage your work more efficiently so that you can have more time to spend in all the other areas of your life.
Remember that life is temporary to waste it and not living it to the fullest. Life is a one way journey. Don’t walk through life towards death without even enjoying it because we are too busy with working with wrong priorities…..
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Story: Why Do We Shout In Anger?
A master asked his disciples:
‘Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?’
The disciples thought for a while, and one of them said ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.’
‘But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you? ‘Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you’re angry?’
The disciples gave him some other answers but none satisfied the master.
Finally he explained:
‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.’
Then the master asked:
‘What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small…’
And he concluded:
‘When they love each other even more, what happens?
‘They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love.
‘Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’
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The Moods of a Woman
An angel of truth and a dream of fiction,
A woman is a bundle of contradiction,
She’s afraid of a wasp, will scream at a mouse,
… But will tackle a stranger alone in the house.
Sour as vinegar, sweet as a rose,
She’ll kiss you one minute, then turn up her nose,
She’ll win you in rage, enchant you in silk,
She’ll be stronger than brandy, milder than milk,
At times she’ll be vengeful, merry and sad,
She’ll hate you like poison, and love you like mad.:p
by: Queennie G. Rafil
